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Why can’t i have a social life?
Posted by kuyru | Filed under Family, Irritation, Life, love&hate relationships
It just pisses me off when I think about it. For me, I don’t really have a big social life outside of uni and work, mainly because 1) I get tired after an entire day of work and study and 2) I just can’t be bothered. Yes, I’m a lazy bum, but when I’m not and I do go out, my mum basically chucks this look as though I’m the devil. Why? Because she doesn’t approve of me going out late.
I’ve only been out late only four times since I’ve turned eighteen, and every time I had to leave early. The latest time I arrived home? 11pm. And that was allowed since my older sister was with me. So latest I’ve arrived home without my sister?
9pm.
If I heard someone else in uni who had to come home that early, I would be having laughing fits. Honestly, that time curfew is suitable for older teenagers (15+). But when I was fifteen, I couldn’t even go out by myself at all, unless it’s going to school (If I wanted to visit my friends, my mum [or sister] would have to take me there and back). I couldn’t even go to a friend’s house to a sleepover until now, except only for family (which is NOT fun, btw).
And why doesn’t she let me go out? She thinks it’s dangerous go out by oneself. In case someone takes advantage of you, kidnapping, robbery, etc.
Because of my mum’s rules, most of my friends all become rather distant. I would say, ’sorry, I can’t, because my mum doesn’t allow me to’, or ‘I have to wait until I’m eighteen until I can go out by myself” whenever they invite me out. My mum would say that my friends are not good friends, who just dump you because you’re not doing what they want you to do. But I think my distant friends dump me because I don’t attempt to work a friendship with them. Sure you can talk to them on the phone or the internet now with technology, but it’s not the same interacting face-to-face. A true friend would be understanding, as well as someone who puts an effort in a relationship.
Now that I’m eighteen, I can go out by myself, without my mum ferrying to and from the place. However, the fine print is: only during the day. I don’t know if my mum knows, but most of my friends are busy during the day. They would at work, at uni, at extra-curricular activites, studying,family duties, and the list goes on. They are usually available at night-time, usually on Friday or Saturday. I had to refuse several invitations to go clubbing, because they want to meet up at 10, when I can’t even go out at that time. The one time I went clubbing was at 8, and it was boring, because there was basically no one around, and the majority of people would come around 10 earliest (if you are lucky). So my fun is ruined.
When I mention it to people, they think my mum is rather over-protective, but I think my mum is not only overprotective, but overbearing and paranoid.